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Learning to Communicate

November 7, 2014

Learning to Communicate -{photo compliments of the gifted Pranee Loffer of Beauty for Ashes Photography}

This past year, since our move from the Carolina’s to Nashville, it has been a painful transition. As I said in my last post, I thought this was going to be easy. I thought for sure I was strong enough to go wherever God wanted to lead us. I mean, my goodness, I was open to becoming overseas missionaries. Wow, my heart was in the right place, but

Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered. (Proverbs 28:26 ESV)

If you read last year’s posts you can see how fast the listing/selling/moving process went. And it was crazy because my husband had asked me if I would be up to moving to Nashville and I immediately said yes. We didn’t sit down and talk about it. There really was no discussion, no pros and cons list was made. In my heart I wanted to lovingly submit to my husband. I wanted to encourage him in his work and if moving to Nashville was how I was going to communicate my love to him then that’s what I was going to do. I never once thought about how this would impact our relationship. Continue Reading…

A Day in the Life of

January 1, 2014

Happy New Year my loves! I’m still trying to think of my word for the year so in the mean time I want to explain what I’ll be sharing daily with you. Let’s be real, how often do moms get their photos taken? Especially with their children or husband? I, for one, am tired of waiting for others to take photographs of me. I’m not vain, I just want to have memories that I can look back on when my sweet loves have left the nest. My focus is going to be capturing those moments that usually go completely unnoticed. Join me? Grab your camera and a tripod. Get creative and share your photos! Use #dilo on Twitter

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I’d Do It Again

December 13, 2013

Over the past six years we’ve looked for other houses to move to. We’ve looked for land. There are times we wanted to throw our hands up and move back to Ohio. We’ve had our joys but we’ve also had some really rough times. However, I would do all this all over again. Every scowl, every tear, every hurt was making us better.


“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.”


I’m going to be open with you. My husband and I went through a really rough valley moving to South Carolina. This was the first time we were away from family. We were fully relying on each other. The sad part is, we weren’t fully relying on God. Our faith was tested in ways we hadn’t experienced before.


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guatemala bloggersphoto compliments of Lindsey Nobles

Yesterday my husband, Jeremy, landed in Guatemala City with the FH Bloggers for a week long visit. Late, late, late last night we were able to Skype with each other!

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All my little kidlets were asleep and there I was sitting on the bathtub beyond giddy that I was finally able to speak with my hubby! Like any good spouse I was so relieved to hear how good the trip was going so far. The sights he’s seen. The people he’s met. The adventures they are about to go on.

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And then I became a jealous spouse.

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So Long Social Media

January 6, 2012

After reading my daughters letter I knew my next step of action was to wean myself off of social media. Not completely, mind you. Otherwise this site would be gone. But Facebook has got to go. Twitter has got to go. I’ve realized that I’m giving most of my precious time to acquaintances, who if we’re honest, don’t have a real investment in me. For the close friends on social media, I will find ways to interact in real life. This is not a selfish post, I don’t want to make this all about me. This is about how I’ve fallen and I need to find that narrow path again. The path that leads to a real investment in God. A path most of us need to find again.

I reluctantly joined Facebook in the winter of 2009. We had moved away and had no family or friends nearby. This seemed to be the best way to stay connected. Little did I know how addicting social media would be for me. Some people, I realize, can go on once a month and be content. That’s not me. I became a slave to the desire of recognition. I wanted to know that I wasn’t alone. And for some reason, God wasn’t enough for me. I wanted human attention. I wanted ‘likes’ as much as I had wanted ‘favorites’ when I had been addicted to Flickr. As a stay at home mom I wanted nothing more than companionship. I loved being a mother but with a husband who worked and coached and went to school I was forgetting who I was. I was lost in motherhood. Social media became my escape.

And I’ve wasted hours upon hours in front of this small screen. Snipping at my children when they dare interrupt my ‘alone’ time. Leaving my Bible asleep on the counter covered with the days mail. Disregarding household chores that could bless my family. All this time I chose ME. And isn’t that what the world screams to mothers? “Take time for yourself! You deserve it! Get pampered!”

Listen, our time is flying away. We can no longer bend a knee to this world. We have to choose to live for Christ or live for ourselves. Living the Christian life was never meant to be easy. We are not meant to be comfortable. I know, I know I’m going to struggle with wanting to go numb in front of the computer. But ever time I say no that’s one less victory for the devil. Just need to take small steps each and every day.

So I’m saying goodbye to social media {which is incredibly difficult as that is my husbands profession}. But I’m ready to take that extra time and spend it with my children. With my husband. With my Lord. Those early morning moments that I checked e-mail {more spam?} and facebook {farmville, anyone?} will be spent on my knees before a God who deserves so much more that just a quick thanks before dinner. When all is said and done I don’t want to have wasted it all. I want to have run the race as best as I possibly could.

Join me?

Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God. Or do you suppose it is to no purpose that the Scripture says, “He yearns jealously over the spirit that he has made to dwell in us”? But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.” Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you.

{James 4:4-8 ESV}